Tactics They Use
Funny?
… Not when it’s true.
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This video was produced to raise awareness and to generate discussion about a social ill in our midst.
The problem exists on two levels.
Firstly, there are some specific du’at who have used their positions of leadership in the community, and the fame that has come with it, to embark upon a path of marrying and divorcing large amounts of sisters, often for short periods of time, without concern about the impact this has upon them or taking responsibility for their actions.
It is shocking to learn how many times some of these du’at have been married and divorced and how they often divorce without there being marital discord. In some cases they have divorced just to “lighten their load.” Or those who travel to new cities and marry for the duration they are there and divorce when it’s time to leave.
This is not a mut’ah marriage like the Shi’ah practice; they don’t stipulate in the contract that the marriage will be for a short time. They just marry and when it’s time to move on (even if it is after a week), or they want to free a slot up for a new wife, divorce!
The second aspect of this is that when such behaviour is present amongst the leaders the followers naturally take on board this attitude towards marriage. So we see this high turnover rate of wives amongst other brothers too, such that a sister is effectively passed among friends who each marry her briefly and pass her on.
One of the key tactics used in this practice is to attack and remove the position of the father as the walee. By casting aspirations on the father’s religiousness they declare his wilayah invalid and appoint someone sympathetic to their marriage proposal in his place. “Oh, sister your father is an innovator. He is racist. He is against the Sunnah. He is doubting my commitment to my deen when he has no right to, etc.”
There are many personal accounts from sisters of this repugnant behaviour online and the damage and shame that it has brought. It’s often left to charity organisations to pick up the pieces of the psychological damage done to these sisters from having been treated in such a casual inconsequential manner.
The objective here is to raise this debate amongst Muslims, as a person’s outward status in the community should not give them a free ticket to reap havoc in people’s lives.
